If you’re the type of guy who goes to bars, then you should definitely consider the possibility of meeting a woman at one of these places. However, it is probable that you will never see any success unless you make a conscious effort to approach and talk to women.
Scoping: before you utter the first words to a women in a bar, you need to scope the place out and do a people search. You need to look around and get a sense of what is going on. Look at the groups of people around you. Higher energy groups will require you to exhibit higher energy levels. Bigger groups containing a lot of girls while require you to engage in all or most of them.
Approaching and opening: this can be the ought step for men. It tacked a lot of balls to go up to a group of people and insert yourself. You can’t hang around when approaching a group, you need to just head straight there and use your opener. If they see you lurking by, they will see you as a threat or a distraction. Don’t run at them and barge your way through. Just walk by, turn to them and use your opener. As soon as one or two of them turn to look at you, start speaking. Smile, then let them respond. Walk a little closer and create a bit of controversy to keep them hooked. Once you see that you’re partially hooked, you need to integrate yourself into the group more. Ask them to introduce you to their friends and then go from there.
Conversation and Flirting: from this point on, you need to flirt with one or more of the girls and keep your flirting in proportion to the signs they are giving you. If you flirt too much, too soon, they will probably be put off.
Closing: when you’re closing the deal you have either kissed the girl, get her number, give her your number, swap numbers with her. The worst one would be giving her your number, but not getting hers. Try and avoid that.
Arrange your second interaction: forget all about that nonsense about waiting 72 hours before calling or texting the girl you’ve attracted. You’re in control. Send her a text the next day which references something stupid or funny that you said or did when you first met. This will give her the same positive emotional response she had the night before when reading the text.
When you’re doing a people search and looking for a woman you want to date, you don’t always have to compliment her in order to get one. Do you think the bad boys tell her how beautiful and perfect she is? They catch her attention by saying something out of left field. And sometimes this can be downright rude! If you want to walk up to a beautiful woman, grab her full attention in two sentences, then here is exactly what you gotta say in order to score a date:
“Whoa you can’t just do that…”: If you want to stop a woman in her tracks the trick is to follow up with a compliment about something she’s doing:
⁃ “Whoa, you can’t just do that.” “What?” “When you walking in here smiling like that I lose my whole train of thought”
You get the idea right? You’re catching her attention with a kind of rude sentence, but then flipping it around to something positive.
“I can’t believe you just did that!”: You want to use this one after she does something:
⁃ “I can’t believe you just did that.” “Did what?” “Walked right by me without apologizing.” “For what?” “For having such a great smile, I forgot everything I was thinking about.”
And this time you should add a second step to the pick up line, maybe ask for her name in the end.
“Are you seriously doing that?”: You know the drill, make her freeze up and then give her a compliment.
⁃ “Are you seriously going to do that?” “Do what?” “Walk right by me without saying hi.”
Then, you can also ask her what her name is in the end. Then you tell her your name, and ask what she’s up to. This way, you get her name and you’re on a better small talk conversation.
Have sex with your dating partner can either be incredible or “blah”. It’s easy to slip into a sex rut and it is not so easy to dig yourself out. If you’re in a rut, you need to turn the tables and make it better than it ever has been before.
Roleplay: turn up the notch in the bedroom with a little role-play. Tell your partner about your dress up fantasies and and have him play along. You can both dress up for each other or have one partner dress up while the other enjoys the show. Just make sure that both you and your lover get to express your fantasies and act them out so you’re both turned on.
Lower your expectations: many guys and girls have expectations about what sex should be like and how it will turn out. Some girls expect orgasm and if he doesn’t blow her mind, the game is over. On the other hand, a lot of guys don’t expect they can give their partner an orgasm and are more focused on getting himself off, then her. If you want to have better sex, lower your expectations. It’s all about having fun and it doesn’t always end in orgasm.
Take turns taking control: it’s time to either take the reins or give them up and take turns taking control in the bedroom. Let your partner decide what you’re going to do that night, whether it be oral sex, anal, or a new position. Make sure you get to be in control another night, where everything goes your way!
Set up the perfect atmosphere: believe it or not, the atmosphere of the bedroom plays a huge part in how great the sex really is. Shower sex is really hot, but if your kids barbie dolls or at your feet, then the mood could be instantly dissipated. Instead try setting up some candles, soft music, and incense. It may sounds like a cliche, but it could actually make a big difference.
Don’t put on the pressure: pressuring your partner to orgasm will most likely backfire. If it’s not happening, then it’s not happening. If you realize that it’s going to take you an hour or more to have an org
In these times of sexual liberation, it is not uncommon to find yourself in a dating relationship with a woman who’s sexual experiences far out do your own. If this is the case, then it shouldn’t be a surprise that this could make you feel less confident. That’s why we’ve put together some easy tips for maintaining your cool in the bedroom.
Master something: Think of sex like a game of playing cards and how important having a trump card is. In the bedroom, no matter how uncertain you feel about your overall skill level, if you have just one winning move, you are good to go. It doesn’t need to be a tricky move either. Something as simple as a sensual massage or oral sex can do the trick.
Look good, feel good: As superficial as it might be, a little bit of personal grooming can go a long way. So, go to the gym a couple times before you meet her next. Complete it by getting a haircut and making sure you smell good.
Touch her like you mean it: If your timid in touch, it will immediately send the signal that you don’t know what you’re doing. Girls love a guy who takes control in the bedroom. Mix up your touches between aggressive and lighter ones, but keep those hands moving. A woman loves it when you put your hands all over her body because it shows that you can’t get enough of her.
Look like you’re enjoying yourself: Nothing ruins the mood more than being with someone who looks like a deer in the headlights. You need to learn how to relax and although this might be difficult, you need to do it. Take a deep breath, loosen your shoulders and just enjoy yourself.
Be prepared to take direction: Chances are she knows what she likes and she will be willing to point you in the right direction. Try not to take this as a critique on how things are going but as an opportunity to really please her.
The best way to become more self confident about your sexual strength is practice! Take the opportunity of being with a more sexually experiences woman as an exciting teacher-student scenario and roll with it.