Statistic show that a lot of career women are looking for love and a serious committed relationship go to places like Match.com and Adult friend finder. They believe that online dating is not only the way to find that true love but by joining a membership site like either of those that they are not going to find themselves involved with a cad or undesirable partner.
Although many men and women do find loving relationships and sometimes even marriage through these sites the odds, like in life, are against such things happening. Society as a whole is not producing the strong silent man, instead young men are coming into the world more metro sexual, whining and soft. Women are not only pulling their own weight but also that of the family and they are doing it by working longer hours for less pay.
Still women are force fed by society, religion and television to believe that a loving, caring man that can offer great Sex security and loves dogs, cats and children is part of their life’s destiny. In the course of trying to find this needle in a haystack many women find not only Mr. Wrong but Mr. Toxic. Many women find that the image of sexual virility and financial security are just that, an image. These shows of bravado and bad behavior are not man raging against the machine and succeeding but little boy whining in the wind and hoping mommy will notice and try and fix the boo-boo.
Dr. Lillian Glass Phd has written a book on Toxic men and how to identify them, the pattern most women fall into and how to stay clear of these men and the drama, confusion and self doubt and loathing they create. Dr Glass suggest that women wanting to know their pattern, men that they are drawn too should try this experiment: list five men they have had strong negative feelings about. Next to their names, list three adjectives describing each of them. When the woman is done, she needs to circle the adjectives that are similar – those traits are the patterns a woman is drawn too and men with those traits are the men that she is allergic to.